How Does Therapy Work?
Your role in therapy is to explore what is on your mind and some of the thoughts that have been troubling you. It doesn't have to all fit together before you say it-just explore. My job is to help you explore.
In my experience 3 things happen as we do this exploring;
1. You will discover new things about yourself and your life that you may not have known before.
2. As we talk about the issues and feelings bothering you, your feelings will change
3. You will find new solutions or a more effective way of living and become more able to make conscious choices. By exploring threatening or troubling thoughts and feelings in a safe environment we get to look at these avoided thoughts and feelings and slow it down. In doing that they lose their power and we are then more able to understand where they came from. You have more information to develop a more complete understanding of yourself and your situation.
The process of therapy helps you put words to and name your internal experiences, thoughts and feelings. It makes all that is going on internally inside of us, external by naming it so we can see it better. I will help you with this process of taking what's internal and making it external so you can see it clearer. When you can see it clearly you can better understand yourself, your experiences, emotions and that which has been bothering you. You are then able to make the choices necessary to move forward.
Becoming a New Mom is Hard
Motherhood is a major transition. It means the change of many things as we once knew them. Although it can be a joyful and loving time, for many it can be filled with stress and anxiety. The distress a new mother experiences can be normal, talking to someone can help you make sense of your new thoughts, feelings and worries during this transition period in you and your family's life.
Although distress is a common and normal experience when becoming a new mother or adding a new baby to the family, 1 in 5 women will develop a more serious mental health concern called a PMAD (Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder)
Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders have been identified in women of every culture, age, income level and
ethnicity. 15-20% of women experience more serious symptoms during or after the birth of their baby.
Are you feeling sad or depressed?
Do you feel more irritable or angry with those around you?
Are you having difficulty bonding with your baby?
Do you feel anxious or panicky?
Are you having problems with eating or sleeping?
Are you having difficulty concentrating or making decisions?
Are you having upsetting thoughts that you can’t get out of your mind?
Do you feel as if you are “out of control” or “going crazy”?
Do you feel like you never should have become a mother?
Are you worried that you might hurt your baby or yourself?
Any of these symptoms, and many more, could indicate that you have a form of perinatal mood or anxiety disorder, such as postpartum depression. While many women experience some mild mood changes during or after the birth of a child, 15 to 20% of women experience more significant symptoms of depression or anxiety. Please know that with informed care you can prevent a worsening of these symptoms and can fully recover. There is no reason to continue to suffer. Symptoms can appear any time during pregnancy and the first 12 months after childbirth. There are effective and well-researched treatment options to help you recover.
You are not alone. You are not to blame. With help, you will be well.